Remembering Adam

Yesterday started out very emotional, but ended up being a wonderful day of remembrance for a fun friend. In the evening one of his friends planned a bonfire at Golden Gardens, one of Adam's (and all of Seattle's) favorite places. On the way we went to dinner at Dick's. So did all the other bonfire friends (we all knew what Adam would have wanted to eat on the way to a bonfire.) Heather was there, Adam's widow. She came over to say hi. Libby was very excited to see her. But Libby has a great memory for people and the other people they go with.
Here is how the conversation went.
Libby: "Hi Heather. Where is your guy?"
Mom, Heather, Derek, Clark--exchange glances...hoping she will just let it go.
Libby: "Heather, where is your guy?"
Mommy: "He isn't here tonight."
Libby: "Well where is he?"
Mommy(tearing up): "He went home to Heavenly Father."
Libby: "Why?"
Mommy: "We don't know."
Libby: "Mommy, why are you crying?"

Heather kept her cool during the exchange, but it made her loss very real for me. If even Libby put the two of them together after being with them only once that she remembers--it is going to be difficult for her to get used to being alone. But I am glad I knew the answers to most of her questions. And I know that eventually I will know the WHY? part too. Adam had another work to do.